The Soil Sisters

Hey! You're Looking at the Wrong Places!

How have you all been doing? Let me pose a question: How many times have you gotten rejections from girls you meet at the bar? How much have you spent on drinks you gave to women you want to ask out, only to receive a complimentary ‘thanks’ and nothing else? Okay, maybe this one: how many great, sensible, non-drunk conversations have you had with women at a bar?

I bet your answers are anything but beneficial on your side. Honey, if you’re looking for a girl for more than just one night of ecstatic stranger sex, the bar is just not the right place. Stop believing Hollywood’s portrayal of the happily ever after they got from meeting women at the bar. It does not always happen that way.

It’s high time you, Mister, take a look around elsewhere looking for ze ladies. Avoid making so many mistakes. It is such a wide, wide world out there and there are still more females than males and chances are, the girl you’ve been looking for is frequenting a quieter, nicer, cleaner, and more wholesome place other than clubs.

Let me give you a list of places where you should start looking. You’re probably in these places often enough to meet great women, you just didn’t look around well enough. 

The gym – girl-watching at the gym is really nothing new. After all, women in tight yoga pants and sport tops, all sweaty and glowing from workout ecstasy, are all attractive to men. Join a spinning class perhaps? Or notice the girl on the next treadmill. Help the girl with the machine or something. Sooner or later, you’ll end up having a fun conversation with someone that can lead to somewhere, then maybe suggest going for green tea smoothies afterwards.

A local volunteer group – hello Salvation Army! Look for a local volunteer group in your area – find something that would interest you. It could be a volunteer group to help teach children with special needs, a sports group, or a group that cooks for the homeless? A lot of good girls hang around here. You’re not only getting to meet the ladies, you’re also doing something good for your community. Way to go, Mr Deeds!

The bookstore – hit the bookstore and you’ll find there’s more in there than just your average schoolgirls and nerdy girls. Here you will find girls with interests, girls who are into learning new things, and girls who you could probably talk about anything. Wouldn’t it be easy to find a girl who’s reading the same book as you, and you end up talking about the book? And you start swapping books, exchanging reviews on the books, and then you start exchanging numbers too?

The supermarket – yes, the supermarket. Catch the single ladies late at night – moms never show up past bedtime to do the groceries, or on paydays. Also, frequent the healthy food areas, too. Teenagers and college girls go for junk food, young ladies go for the healthy stuff.

The thing is, in these areas, the girls are less guarded. They don’t see men as maniacs trying to prey on them. They see men as men, trying to do about their ways and living normal lives. No—I’m not saying go be the creeper that goes to the supermarket every day to wait for girls. The point is—just try to open your eyes to see more possibilities!

XOXOXOX
LINDA :-)