The Soil Sisters

Hello there reader! First post– I am really excited. It’s hard to choose what to put in here as a first post, but finally managed to write about dating. So.. here goes!

Let’s face it—dating is a cruel and confusing game. I myself have been a victim of horrible first dates– never have I felt awkwardness in my entire life. I don’t know if men will chance upon my blog, but I hope they will– because this post is about the common mistakes men make in dating.

Some men find it hard to go past that first date, because everything went horribly wrong in all directions. Physical attraction, of course, is always a good thing—but you have to understand that there’s more to it than meets the eye.

Before you get to this, STOP SCREWING IT UP!

If you want to at least score yourself a fourth or fifth date, you have to avoid making these mistakes that are bound to put an end to that first date. The thing is– women get easily turned off, according to this Yahoo! article—so make it a point to keep everything under control.

Mistake #1: Being too clingy. You’re a man. The word “clingy” shouldn’t even be in your vocabulary to begin with. When women see that slightest hint of cling in you, prepare for a major mood swing moment, or eventually her leaving you right there and then. Stop being too possessive—it’s not attractive. Show her that you have your own life to deal with. Keep on doing those things you love, and don’t show her that she is the centre of your universe. I get it, you’re just trying to be sweet and all—but don’t tell me I didn’t warn you if there comes a time when she’ll immediately leave you after you’ve called her 25 times in a row because she wouldn’t pick up the phone on your movie night Wednesdays.

Mistake #2: Arrogance. There’s no need to remind her on every date that you were a high school god, or a class valedictorian in college. You don’t have to explicitly tell her that you make a seven-figure amount yearly, or tell her details about that latest new car you bought for the second time this month. NO. Women love confidence, but hate arrogance to bits. I know you want to show her that you know how to flirt with a girl, but please, do keep it on a lowdown. So stop bragging. Modesty is sexy, trust me on this one.

Mistake #3: Not Following Through. Bottom line is, do not let words right out of your mouth if you have no intentions of acting up on them. If you say that you’ll come pick her up after her yoga class, do so. If you tell her that you’ll fix her leaking faucet early in the morning tomorrow before work, set up three alarm clocks on your bedside so you can wake up and fix her leaking faucet the next day. Go the distance, women will appreciate it if you consistently do things as you say—they’d love you more for it.

Dating is a fun game, yet you should always prepare yourself for the ride. It’s not always promising, but if you steer clear from these mistakes, you’re on to a good start. Also, improve yourself by learning the latest dating techniques if you must – a good site that we recommend is SonicSeduction.net – go take a look. Good luck!

XOXO
Lindy

I’ve received raves about my first post last month about the common mistakes men make. And one reader, a male, said it would be awesome if I would come up with things that would impress ladies upon first meeting. Well, thanks for your email, Jake. This one’s for you!

First impressions last. And that is especially true about meeting girls. You don’t always (though it’s not impossible at all!) book yourself another chance to make a second impression so you had better make good at the first. If you’ve managed to practice seduction, I’m sure you’ll have a good chance of getting a second booking. If you haven’t yet, then you should click here.

The secret to making a good impression is doing something memorable. Ok, no cartwheels at the dinner table but if you manage to get her to react unexpectedly (positively, please), then you are in a really good situation.

But how do you actually make a good first impression? And how do you make sure you’re doing it naturally? Here are some ways:

The Handshake – kissing her on the cheek when you meet her for the first time is okay if you’re British or something. But not everyone is accustomed to it and a handshake maybe a little bit more appropriate. And a firmer handshake is always better. It gives the woman the sense that you are confident and trustworthy – plus, that is probably the first connection you have so make it good. (Plus a firmer grip lets her feel your masculinity).

Spray your perfume at strategic places. Don’t bathe yourself with it!

Awesome scent – nothing beats a good smell to impress a woman. A random great smelling passerby can make us turn our heads to follow the smell, a great smelling date is even more awesome. Choose a scent that is not overpowering (call a female friend) but clean and long lasting. And remember, it’s not about how much you put, it’s about where you spray them on. Spray them on your pulse points – behind your ear, on the neck, and your wrists.

Your first words – ahh but it’s natural to get tongue-tied! This is very tricky but if you can pull this off, it’s a very effective way to make a good conversation. And oh maybe it’s not just about what you are saying but also in the manner that you’re saying it. Start with a compliment on her dress, or how awesome she looks.

Time – pick her up early or get to the place early. You may have to wait a little bit longer, but it will give her the impression that you are excited to meet her and that you are a mature, responsible man who does not make a lady wait. And that, my friend, is the mark of a true gentleman.

Your parting words – like every good story, a good meeting must be adjourned impressively as well. Remember, she is more likely to remember the last things you had said and done before you went your separate ways. So make sure you get to make that one last first impression move to book a second one.

Of course these do not discount the fact that you do have to make sense while you’re having a conversation. Make her laugh, make eye contact, be an engaging conversationalist, don’t be rude, don’t forget our etiquette – the usual works. By the way, this is also a good read on how to greet and leave on your first date. Together with the impression-makers, they will help you snag a second date or be in her list of really great men. Good luck!